“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!”
― Hunter S. Thompson, The Proud Highway: Saga of a Desperate Southern Gentleman, 1955-1967
Strong independent women. When this title fells more like a punishment than something you should be proud of, you are going in the right direction. Career women are the first people that come to mind when talking about them and although most of them try really hard to become one, others stumble into it by accident. In many cases they do not even realize it until it is all over.
Career women are often depicted as 30-something women with a good job (which is a very subjective topic), an own apartment and no partner. According to Wikipedia a career woman describes a woman whose main priority in life is achieving success in her career and profession. These women can also be described as more interested in her career than in being married and having children. Notwithstanding the fact that, as mentioned before, many career women do not see achieving success as a priority but rather stumble into it; I find it interesting that we do not see a similar term in use for men. Furthermore, this definition makes it sound like women have only two options in life: being married and having children or achieving success in their career.
If we take a closer look at the options on has in her life, we can see a specific path or a series of choices that can lead to being part of the group in question.
- Moving out of your parents’ house is the first step that should happen eventually at one point in life. I am not talking about shared apartments but of an own apartment. A step which will lead you to get to know yourself better. Taking this step can be accelerated by many factors for example a bad relationship with you parents or just not liking people in general.
- Being too proud to ask other people for money will make you work a lot, which will make you independent and more experienced in many different work fields.
- Having many interests opens up a lot of options and you will end up studying something moderately interesting. Because of the work you put into it, you will want to get your degree as fast as possible.
Mixing these ingredients with time will get you a life of studying and working which will slowly take up all your time and cancel your social life. Under these circumstances it will be impossible to find a partner which will allow you to concentrate more on your work. Also if you add a pinch of bad experiences you will eventually start putting yourself first. Self care will become more important and you will start training a lot, doing your hair, nails and make up which will make you look gorgeous (yes, we are just going to ignore how exhausting all of this can be sometimes). Let it set in and you will have a career woman.
The question that arises from all of this is what will you do when you finally meet the right person you want to be with? How much are you willing to give up?
Aromatic deception 